I recently received this letter;
In late February of 07, I joined a website called myfreeimplants.com, more out of humor than anything else. Free breast implants? Come on this could not be possible!
I have always wanted breast implants, but could never afford them. My first day on the site, I realized that the website is the real deal and it could work for me! How it works is women, like myself, ask men, or as the website calls them, “benefactors”, for donations to get breast implants. it took me 3 months to raise enough money for my surgery.
On june 4th 2007, I reached my goal amount, and decided to get a my free implants tattoo [by Cary at High Street Tattoo, Columbus OH] . My surgery is scheduled for September 1st 2007, and I can not wait to join the big boobie club.
The internet is a magical place 🙂
Thanks!
– Lindsay (iam:fancy heart)
Comments
298 responses to “Free Breast Implants (Celebratory Tattoo!)”
the media has done is make women believe they NEED breast enlargements, make up, hair care etc and that their decisions to do buy into this image are their own.Posted by Giles
ur just so fuckin stupid ur view point falls into bitch how the fuck can u keep telling me that im fucking up ur selfesteeme It’s called ur fucking SELF-esteeme besdies that fact that ur mom got the herpes she gave me off a toilet seat after sitting on it after ur uncle jake
[b]What I have said is that there is constant, consistent and overwhelming influence from society and the media and advertising to make the choices they want.[/b]
I agree with that. But I do think that all the ideas that the media put pressure on are things that have come about naturally anyway, the media didn’t invent any of it, it’s just the general population’s opinion. After all, the media is just loads of people.. not some big un-human force.
Like has been said before, it’s biology.
And about your reasoning thing.. why can’t that person have the same reasons as you for modifying her body by removing a mole? If you are saying it’s not possible for her to have a reason other that media pressure or whatever, then how is it possible for you to have a reason to modify your body other than pressure and influence?
>>And about your reasoning thing.. why can’t that person have the same reasons as you for modifying her body by removing a mole?
My mods are not designed to make me more confident or more appealling to others, they are purely there to show my connectedness to certain cultural beliefs and to distance myself from mainstream aesthetic values. They are neither fashion accessories or gimicks to boost any psychological disfunction.
That said, I do like the look of them 😀
Giles= Elitist fuckin snob with nothing better to do then sit at home reading books rather then living in the real world.
I’m not sure who is blowing smoke up your ass Giles but quite frankly all your comments on this make you look like a fuckin tosser.
Congratulations to fancy heart and thank god to everyone who has stood up to Giles’s bullshit.
hm, ok, well I have no right to bash your reasons, so I won’t. But you should do the same.
But the ideal standard of beauty has changed dramatically historically, and throughout different cultures. Beauty standards have always been a class issue: traits associated with the wealthy are considered beautiful. Only the rich can afford plastic surgery, after all. I have a hard time accepting that the current beauty standards are determined by biology because they are, by nature, classist and racist.
In my opinion, the very notion this site gives that women with small (or medium-sized…) breasts are a charity case is awful and enforces the idea that women are defective by nature. It’s a bit hard to believe that every single woman pictured on that site is persuing the current ideal body type (notice they’re all thin and attractive to begin with) out of genuine body dysmorphia…
Oh Rex how I wish I was you, you sound Soooooo clever.
You don’t come across as an inept troll at all.
As a final note regarding this issue I just want to thank those who have sent supportive mails to my IAM and those who (understandably) don’t wish to contribute here due to the barrage of abuse that often follows.
Especially worrying are those females who wrote to me who do have negative body image issues and understand the pressure to conform.
It is sad that a list dedicated to one of the great artistic expressions of the self has become home to abusive idiots such as Rex, Kyle, Bradly, Jordyn and Noisy. It never used to be so bad.
Peace out.
y’know what? i say kudos. if implants make her feel good, isn’t that what bodmods are all about? as a post above says, love the life you love.
Always kind of interesting to see how, in an argument, “enlightened” or “intelligent” really just means that the person agrees with you. And everyone who disagrees with you is an idiot, right?
So many people on all sides of the argument can be so narrowminded.
Yeah, I’m female. And yes, I’ve noticed how society manipulates me. But the thing is, I can think for myself. I have this thing called a brain, yes? So I see society pressuring me to be thin, and I ignore it. And now I’m exercising and eating healthier because I would like to not gasp for breath after running a half a block. I see the media pressuring me to look a certain way, act a certain way, and yeah, sometimes I go along with what society wants, because it just happens to coincide with what I want and who I am. And the rest of the time, when society’s desires and my own are at odds, I go with what I want still.
So she got breast implants. She wanted breast implants and she got them. And it doesn’t matter who else may have tried to pressure her into it or out of it. It doesn’t matter if other people like them or not, because they’re her damn boobies and she should be able to do whatever the hell she wants with them.
I think, through Freud’s reasoning (which Giles should comprehend as he used it himself), Giles’ mother likely had small tits, and while breastfeeding he likely got attached to them. Now he uses, subconsciously, feminism to support a belief that women shouldn’t get implants because it subjugates them; in all reality, Giles just likes small boobs and is trying to mold the world into an aesthetic he prefers.
QED.
to say ALL women that get boob jobs are women that just want to mould themselves into what mainstream society wants them to be is so off.
i believe the following would be more accurate…SOME women choose to augment their breasts due to social pressures while others choose to augment their breasts for personal reasons which have nothing to do with how others will react.
the same could be said for virtually any other body modification…for example, SOME people choose to get tattoos because it’s the COOL thing to do while others choose to get tattoos for personal reasons which have nothing to do with how others react.
i’m just an average 24 year old woman and i would TOTALLY get a breast enhancement if i could afford one! if i had the opportunity to have someone else pay for it?! hot damn, i’d be all over it. why? not because i feel inadequate (i’m a big girl with already ample breasts) but because i LIKE nice large perky breasts…whether natural or “fake”.
giles…get off your high horse.
just a quick question for giles, as well..
i left the IAM community a few years ago (ya know, because there were so many people quick to stand on their soap box to spew their beliefs and pass judgement on others…), therefore i am unable to access your photo gallery…
but i was just wondering…why did you choose the glasses you chose? was it because they were the only frames offered to you? perhaps it was because you felt a deep rooted desire for and strong connection to them? or could it possibly be because they’re a trendy popular choice amongst today’s young adults?
abusive idiot?… you are quite the judge of character Giles… geez.
Hmmm im not really happy that gialse warlick has decided to make this whole thread about themselves ..Thats just wrong I on the other hand would like to take this time to thank my sponsers(jack and Jill) for without them i would hae never made it up the hill .;My suggestion to the women hair if u are indeed feeling the pressure to conforn turn the valve of influnce down,unplug ur tv,cut off the cable stop reading the glamour based magizines and switch to the all new prozac enhanced trident sugarless bubble gum just chew on one pice a day for at least 5 minutes and u no longer have to brush ur teeth and it will elivate ur mood at the same time(side effedts maybe be as follows real or imagined mental realated illnesses and lock jaw)+__*(
Giles writes:
“Whether you like it or not women are under incredible pressure to conform to images of beauty and sexiness that are enforced by the media, that is a fact. It doesn’t make them weak willed in any way at all, it does however make them an unfortunate victim of a society obsessed with appearance.”
Okay. I’m willing to buy that.
But in the year 2007, can you really claim that the other body modifications celebrated on this site haven’t the similar pressures? I mean, face it, stretched lobes and “out there” piercings are answering to a certain aesthetic now, a certain cool “look.” Everyone and their cousin is stretching their lobes now, you can’t see how for many people it’s the very same commodification of rebellion that’s been going on forever? It’s been “cool” to be “against societal norms” for a very long time.
Are we still giving free boobie examinations or I’m mistaken ?
Giles,
Freud also wrote a great deal about penis envy. I think perhaps if he had met you he may have written about breast envy.
😉
#113 And Giles.. a lot of what you are saying is pretty offensive to women, so your whole “oh I care about womens feelings etc.” thing is kinda backfiring.
Posted by Lucy on June 26th, 2007 at 7:59 pm
#114 Lucy – not really, sorry.
Posted by Giles Wallwork on June 26th, 2007 at 7:59 pm
Solid response, Giles. How dare you say you are not offending women and this is not back firing if so many women on here are expressing how they are absoloutely revolted by you and your comments? How dare you deny Lucy’s feelings? By disregarding and denying women’s expressions, you have clearly demonstrated your conformity to how society deems men should treat women.
My advice to you: Open your ears and listen to women rather than attempt to speak for them. You are doing a LOT more harm than you believe you’re doing good.
Akibare – In 2007 yes you are right many people do body modifications as a fashion statement, it wasn’t always the way though.
Mimi – “why did you choose the glasses you chose? “. Simple, I chose them because they were given to me by a friend.
Kyle – “you are quite the judge of character Giles” You are free to prove me wrong Kyle.
This is really quite interesting. I asked if you really does believe yourself to be some sort of super-genius — seeing things the rest of us somehow cannot — in the only message I address to you, and I suddenly find myself to be labeled an abusive idiot. In what way was my asking those questions abusive, Giles? I think they were entirely reasonable. One could certain suspect, from the “believe” followed by the “the facts remain” in post #49 that you do indeed believe that people are wrong when they say they know why they do something.
Pressure to conform is everywhere. Mainstream society at large exerts pressure, but so to do many — perhaps even most — sub- and countercultures. Saying that one MUST resist the mainstream is itself exerting pressure. I’d be a rich man indeed if I had a penny for every “am I {insert subculture name here} enough to not be rejected by my {insert subculture name here} friends?” questions, discussions, arguments, or general angst that I’ve seen/read/overheard. This includes discussions along the lines of, “if someone only has a pierced navel, are they bodmod enough?” which, I assure you, I have seen.
As I said, pressure to conform is everywhere. Advertising, for instance. They way you talk about Madison Ave. and the media spending billions — that’s beyond obvious. I very, very vaguely recall a short article I once read on advertising. It was written at a sixth-grade level, so I read it at some point in elementary school. Mention of things like the Follow The Herd technique, saying that bazillions of people want to buy Brand X so you’ll want to buy it to avoid feeling left out. Or hiring personalities to shill for whatever, so you’ll buy it because you like them. (A number of ad techniques are merely slicked-up reworkings of elementary-school-playground popularity games, after all.) That this happens really isn’t as big a surprise to everyone as you seem to think it is, given the somewhat breathless way you repeat it as if you’re telling us something we don’t already know. After reading that article in elementary school I could see it everywhere. Sometimes I buy the popular thing, sometimes I buy the unpopular thing — that’s called, buying what I want to buy. True freedom in buying decisions, you might say. I don’t shy away from something because others might think I’m too mainstream, or not mainstream enough, if I indulge in it.
Anyway, onward.
The way that you mentioned, several times, that Fancy Heart hadn’t explained why she wanted breast implants, aroused my suspicions. It made me suspect that you were waiting to hear her reason(s), so you could judge it/them as proper or not. (After seeing the way you used the words “should” and “wrong” in post #104, well…) Then you use the word “forgivable” in message #249. This only reinforces my suspicions that you fancy yourself as worthy to judge.
As for quoting Freud in post #249, I would recommend that people read Richard Webster’s “Why Freud Was Wrong” and Dr. Frederick Crews’ “The Memory Wars: Freud’s Legacy in Dispute.” Only after reading such works, in addition to the works of Freud’s supporters, can people really make up their minds as to whether or not Freud is someone to respect.
What you say about distancing yourself from mainstream aesthetics (post #253) reminds me of something. Years ago, on a listserv dedicated to a subculture that received (still receives, reallY) scorn and abuse from the mainstream, one individual was particulary strident in his hatred of/contempt for anything mainstream. On more than one occasion he literally said that he watches what the mainstream does, and then he does the opposite. He either could not, or WOULD not, understand that this meant he wasn’t thinking for himself, he was still following (albeit in a retrograde way) mainstream society. I wonder if perhaps you’re so intent upon distancing yourself from the mainstream, that you’re thinking for yourself, as little as he was. I maintained, and still maintain, that the true freethinker is one who picks up things (ideas, music, aesthetics, behaviors, etc) according to his own opinion of them, regardless of whether or not mainstream society agrees or disagrees with any of them.
That’s sufficient, I think. But in closing I think I’ll revisit your insult.
Labelling me an abusive idiot for posing those questions… Argumentum ad hominem betrays an inner doubt in one’s argument, and/or in one’s ability to press one’s case, dear boy. (And by engaging in ad hominems you’ve relinquished all right to complain that others have slung them at you. Throwing that insult really said much about you, and nothing about me.)
Ah well. You’ll no doubt write off this message as more idiotic abuse. Or would you call it abusive idiocy?
That’s okay. Feel free to call me all the nasty names you want, and insult my intelligence to whatever degree tickles your fancy. It doesn’t bother me.
Noisy – It doesn’t bother me.
Clearly 😀
Wow…what little research some people do. Have you ever heard of due diligence? It’s what we intelligent folk do before opening our uneducated, ignorant mouths. I really enjoy how the BAAPS hast been sited in this thread. I have debated there surgeons on the BBC for weeks and they’ve all ran off with there tails between there legs. Why? Because they didn’t do there research. They looked at MFI at face value without talking to female members, male members, doctors we’ve worked with, founders, etc. You cannot thoroughly summarize a community website and it’s practices by spending a few minutes scanning the site. It’s idiotic. The
Let me give you some facts from someone who’s been with MFI since day one.
-The website has paid for every single woman to get her surgery (there is no scam…any competing website can make something up)
-The website is completely medically safe and requires all women get a consultation from a board certified plastic surgeon before receiving funding (yes the BAAPS was wrong)
-MFI will fund over $500,000 for women to get breast augmentations in 2007
-It does not sell its soul to banner ads or 3rd party service provides to stalk its members
-It is a not for profit company (i.e. the founders do this as charity and have taken zero salaries)
-We are a community website just like BME! We just happen to support body modification in a different fashion. How you can hate on us…I’ll never know!
Lastly, Lindsay I’ll see you in the ATL when you get your free boobs from MFI…
peace
Wow – this is some hot stuff! I can’t believe I actually read all that…
Very interesting, and enlightening, from all the different angles. My two cents would be to support Giles. I don’t necessarily agree with his opinions, but his conviction in his (many!) argument(s) is commendable. One thing I would say is that Giles would save his fingers a lot of wear and tear if he referenced what he was saying. I’d be intrigued to know where the lesbian women body image study came from, for example.
And congratulations to Fancy Heart on a cute tat, and on her new rack!
Nikkibunny – Cheers for the comments. Am happy to provide sourced evidence but this ModBlog entry is looking more and more like a dissertation for me. My poor little fingers are nubs !!!
Since people from the site keep commenting on here I’d still really be interested in seeing data comparing reductions vs implants.
I HATE U MODERATOR!!!!
Giles,
I am curious … What cultural beliefs are you connecting with? Your mods being fashion accessories are in the eye of the beholder as well. Not an attack on you but alot of your posts come off like how you see things is the only way that matter. You seem to want to make blanket statements over what mods are ok to have and what aren’t. Your statements about women only choosing to get breast implants because of the media etc makes it sound like noone can make rational decisions on their own. I mean sure some women get them because they were pressured to a certain image by the media, or by their boyfriends/girlfriends. At the same time alot of women choose to get implants for her own personal reasons. Look how many people get spur of the moment tattoos and piercings without thinking them over or by pressure from someone. Why does it feel like you are not condemning those same people for making rash decisions on the mods they choose to get for their body. How would you judge me and the mods I want done on my body? I am skinny by most defintions of the word yet I wear a corset to create a more hourglassed figure. I wax every bit of hair off my body except for the hair on my head. I want breasts implants to add a little more shape to myself. I have one tattoo on my arm and I have another planned for my back. I don’t do these mods to become more sexy in the eyes of men , infact I could care less about what men thought of my looks. I do these things because it is what makes me happy and how I want myself to look. If fancy heart chooses to get breast implants because she likes fake breasts, why is a simple reason like that not acceptable?
i tried to read all the comments but i couldn’t quite make it through some of the lack of insight and some of the misogyny displayed by everyone. but i am wondering why no one has picked up on the glaring, inherent, undeniable sexism of this site: it is women (and transwomen) getting the boob jobs, and MEN supplying the money. that really stood out to me.
Giles – with regard to your post #249 “For those who haven’t quite understood the arguments here (Kyle, Bradly, Jordyn, Hatamot27T etc etc).”
The post from Hatamot27T I assume you are referring to is #237 – You feel that this person has missed the point of your argument. I myself ask then that you please clarify what you meant when you said “I am more than within my right to address issues of how women are portrayed in society, more so than most women.”
Obviously you are within your rights to address these issues, as we all are, but what exactly makes you MORE SO THAN MOST WOMEN? What makes anyone MORE within their rights than anyone else? If you aren’t referring to the study you have done, making you more within your rights (as you feel you are more informed), then what do you mean?
I don’t need anyone to speak or decide for me as a person, let alone becasue I’m a woman. I speak for me, and I don’t speak for others.
thank god for giles. breast implants are quite different than the mods featured on this site (for the most part). Breast implants are done FOR OTHERS because women have internalized the idea that their physical appearance is all they have to measure their worth by, and YES this is backed up scientifically – this topic was used as an example in my anthro class of how we internalize social pressures until we cannot distinguish these desires from our own. it isn’t about making yourself how you see yourself, it is about making yourself more of what a woman “should” be. it is also very dangerous to a woman’s health. 🙁
Anyone wanting to discuss this further can post comments on my Iam page where I have posted two articles up.
1) Pressure to be perky: Society leads college women to get breast augmentations By: Catherine Callister
and
2) Negative Body Image in Society
You may also wish to read
“Unachievable Standards – An Analysis of the Female Gender Role and Body Dissatisfaction
Melissa Mason”
Which is a rather fine piece on what has been discussed here.
So you aren’t going to clarify why you have more right to comment than other people? Funny that.
Shannon you really need to stop posting women on Modblog. Clearly we’re too fat/skinny/hairy/ugly/pretty/dumb/smart/typical Shannon fantasy/can’t think for ourselves/think for ourselves too much/too slutty/too many lame star tattoos/have foreheads that are too big/hips too bony and hell knows what else.
hehehehe albeans has best post so far 🙂
A word to the wise – In my studuies I have discovered that an alarmingly high rate of women with breast implants commit suicide. If your self esteem and self body image is that poor you need psychological help – having some silicone shoved in you won’t make it go away! Also they look fake, rigid and horrible! Eew! I’d much rather see a natural A cup than a fake EE – small breasts are, in my opinion, the most beautiful.
so I am sitting here reading all of the posts on breast implants and the website. And I wanted to add a comment that some of us while making good money on a steady incme would welcome a breast implant to better our bodies for ourselfs and no one else…I mean I would love to fill out my bikini the way I have always dreamed…not double E’s but a sufficiant full C would be ideal for me…so if I wanted to become part of this website where you dont HAVE to post nude pictures of yourself but the men seem to want to help you then where exactly is the crime in all of this??? It seems to me that this is all consentual and if someone doesnt want to dump all of their savings at once or add another financing bill onto their cresit report then how much different is it from getting the surgery financed through a company except you are getting it financed through individuals…and the most they want out of you is a friendly, non sexual conversation???
Honestly I agree with Giles on this entire ordeal.
What these ladies on this site are doing is nothing worse than prostitution.
It’s pathetic.
The person who sent in the submission sounds like a fraud anyway. Too botty for my taste. I think it’s fake. -shrug-
There are crucial differences between the kind of body modification which is generally celebrated on this blog, and getting standard breast implants.
The difference is that with tattoos, piercings, subdermals, ear reshaping, or whatever, you are meant to notice the modification as modification. These modifications generally increase the distance between the modified body and the ‘perfect’, ‘normal’ body which is pushed on us by the media. In other words, these modifications open up a space for difference, resistance and change.
Breast implants, on the other hand, in the vast majority of cases are intended to make the body resemble more closely the ‘ideal’ female body that we are confronted with every day. Instead of diversifying the kinds of beauty we can appreciate, they close it down. By modifying yourself to conform more closely to a culturally hegemonic ideal, you are reinforcing the power of that ideal. This cycle then perpetuates itself as it makes the next generation of women feel more insecure about their own bodies in turn.
There are valid reasons for distinguishing between the body modification generally featured on this blog (and on bme generally), and breast implants. One is associated with resistance, heterogeneity, and difference; the other with conformity, homogeneity, and the status quo. It is legitimate to make this distinction, and disingenuous to pretend that there’s no difference at all between having your body sucked and pumped to resemble an enforced ideal, and changing your body to try to reflect your own sense of aesthetics.
Maybe some tattoos have become a bit too common and reflect their own sort of conformity, but that doesn’t detract from the general point. Furthermore, the very different cultural histories of tattooing/piercing/suspension/etc. and breast implants/liposuction should also be taken into account.
Finally, as a separate point, the letter featured on the blog post reads exactly like a typical pyramid scheme / scam letter. “I thought it must be too good to be true… but then I thought what have I got to lose?… and lo and behold, it turned out to be amazing and I’m just telling you about it because I want to share the GREAT NEWS!”
Applause for Eccentrica.
I know this comment comes really late but as a mfi girl I just had to say that not all the girls there want huge boobs, we all have different reason’s for wanting implants, mine is that I had breast cancer at the age of 18, now I don’t really have boobs big enough to even fit in a training bra, I don’t want DD’s I just want to feel normal again, and no my insurence would not cover it because it’s cosmetic surgery, so don’t judge someone like me or her because you don’t know our situation, hope you are enjoying the new breasts girl and I hope to have mine soon
i never thought id say this, but i heart giles intensely after reading (some of) this…if only for his UNCANNY ability to finangle panties into knots.
having been born with the genes to provide a rack of near-otherworldly quality…i do not relate at all to these women. not even a little. ‘but…alyssa, you have big titties…you MUST understand why we want them TOO!’ nope. hunching for hours over an intense mmorpg has taught me that being able to draw the male eye DIRECTLY to my torso within seconds is not worth the back pain.
i am a bit late to this convo i’m sure, but as someone who will be getting breast augmentation ASAP i feel the need to say this much…
out of ALL the people i have told about my plans for breast implants, i’d say nine in ten men are against it. some of my closest male freinds have replied with basic disgust that i would ‘do that to myself’ or tell me i am ‘fine the way i am’
so i can say honestly that i am doing this for none other than me. i don’t watch telivision, and rarely the news, the closest thing to ‘media’ that i encounter is the net (by the way boys, big is only in on the porn sights, popular media is all about moderation, including breast size) and then it is mostly this site.
i want larger breasts simply because i think they will look good on me, give a better sence of proportion to my body, and despite the resistance i am facing from most of the people close to me, it will make me happy.
a man should never claim to be a womans freind, and then tell her what is best for her. in doing so, your the same as the media telling her big breasts are best for her, how can people be so blind to themselves?
Seriously,
Any guy willing to donate money for boobs some other guy gets to play with is the lowest form of a CHUMP. The only good thing I can see coming out of this is a guy realizing what a loser he is and changing his life.
you want big boobs…. I have been trying to get rid of mine. no one ever looks at my face….. … . . .. …
ppl r very rude and inconsiderate. I was brought up with the motto “if u don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all”. congratulations on ur implants!
Or you could just go the cheap and easy at home way. Photoshop is ridiculous…… But it’s amazing what they can do to these celebs now.
http://doodiepants.com/2009/07/19/liposuction-and-breast-augmentation-cheap-and-easy-at-home-video-tutorial-diy/